Are Male Cats More Affectionate? (You’ll Be Surprised)

Are Male Cats More Affectionate?

Ask any cat person what they look for in a cat and ‘affectionate’ is one trait you will hear being mentioned many times over.

Cats have gotten a reputation for being aloof since they were domesticated and being affectionate seems to be more the exception than the norm.

When I was looking to adopt my first cat, I remembered being told by other cat owners to get a male cat as they are more affectionate than their female counterparts.

As someone who has owned both genders of cats before, I can safely say that that ain’t always true. But you might argue that my ownership of cats is too small a sample size to draw a valid conclusion from.

Let’s take an in-depth objective look into the different factors that can influence the affectionate levels of a cat.

Do Male Cats Make Better Pets?

When choosing a cat as a pet, the usual considerations will be age, breed and any existing medical conditions.

Some pet owners might want a specific gender if they plan to breed the cats.

However, there isn’t any study research that can draw a conclusion that male cats make better pets in any way.

Both male and female cats make excellent companions.

You might hear the occasional cat owner mention that the male cat is so affectionate but I’m sure there are many cat owners out there with affectionate female cats too.

What Is Affectionate To You?

As humans, our definition of affectionate differs from person to person.

To some, having an affectionate cat means having a cat that is obsessed with the owner at all times. To others, it would mean having a cat that enjoys being near you every now and then.

One thing you need to realize is that cats are unique. Both male and female cats have their own personalities.

Plus given the nature of cats, it can be hard for them to conform to your definition of affectionate.

That doesn’t mean they won’t love you in their own cute and special way.

If you want a pet that is more trainable, a dog might be a better option.

What Determines How Affectionate A Cat Can Be?

You should get an idea by now that cats are rather independent animals, unlike pack animals like dogs.

However, there are certain attributes that can determine how affectionate a cat can be with its owner.

1. Breed Of The Cat

If having a very affectionate cat is very important to you, then choosing the right breed might make a huge difference.

There are certain cat breeds that have more affectionate traits than others. They are more sociable, less wound up, playful and docile.

Maine Coon

maine coon affectionate

Maine Coons are called gentle giants for a reason. Not only can they grow to a large size, but they are also very sociable and affectionate with their owners.

Maine Coons love being around people and make great pets for families with kids and other pets.

Male Maine Coons are known to be more affectionate than females. Male cats prefer to spend more time with their family members.

Siamese Cat

siamese cat long tail and affectionate

Besides being known for their extreme playfulness and curiosity, Siamese cats are very affectionate and don’t like being alone for a long time.

So if you are looking for a cat that likes being around you all the time, consider the Siamese.

The male Siamese cat is known to be more affectionate than the female cat. But the female Siamese is not as naughty as the males.

British Shorthair

american shorthair cat long tail and affectionate

The British Shorthair are excellent pets for first-time cat owners. They are loyal, independent and most importantly very affectionate.

Both male and female cats are equally affectionate. However, the male cat tends to open up and bond faster with the human as compared with the female cats.


sphynx affectionate

If you have a thing for bald cats, the Sphynx will be right up your alley. Its lack of fur makes it seek out its human for body warmth.

They make cute cuddly and lap cats by using use as their blanket all day long


ragdoll affectionate

This list won’t be complete without including the Ragdoll. This breed of cat makes excellent family pets.

The cat’s personality is almost dog-like in nature.

They enjoy following you around, greeting you at the door and even playing fetch.

There are more breeds that can be more affectionate in nature but you can’t really go wrong with any of the above cats.

Cat owners should still note that there are no guarantees here.

A cat’s personality can be rather hard to predict.

2. Fixed Or Unfixed Cats

Whether a cat is sterilized or not can make a huge difference when it comes to affection levels.

Both male and female cats behave differently when there are not neutered or spayed.

Male Cats

Male cats are generally more aggressive and territorial due to the testosterone hormone.

Hence unneutered male cats tend to get anxious, edgy and restless during mating season.

They also prefer to roam the area looking for female cats to mate with.

There’s also a high chance of them getting into fights to defend their territory or to win the right to mate with a female.

If you have yet to neuter your male cat, take a look at the pros and cons of neutering.

Are Male Cats More Affectionate After Neutering?

Neutered male cats won’t have the desire to mate with a female cat after their testicles have been removed.

Thus your feline friend will remain calmer, relaxed and more willing to be affectionate.

Once this desire to reproduce is eliminated, your cat is happier staying at home and snuggling close to you.

Female Cats

Female cats that are not spayed can also get very territorial and rowdy during mating season.

Female cats act differently than male cats during a heat cycle.

Male cats wander while females will be screaming loud meows non-stop to try and attract nearby roaming male cats.

Getting into fights is also a common occurrence for a female cat when she is in heat.

Once female cats are neutered, they will also tend to get more relaxed and affectionate like the boy cats.

You will notice a slight change in a female cat’s behavior after getting spayed.

3. Upbringing

This is a very important factor that can determine how affectionate a cat will be towards humans as it grows up.

Kittens that are well-socialized with humans at a young age tend to be more affectionate than those that are not.

Well socialized kittens will see humans as friendly and safe creatures thus allowing them to bond faster with their new owners.

4. Feral And Abused Cats

Cats that have been feral since their kitten days or abused by humans before tend to take a longer time to warm up to us.

This is because the imprint in their brains tells them that humans are dangerous and should not be trusted.

That being said, there are so many of these such cats that have gone through a proper socialization program and have turned into cuddle bugs.

Are Male Cats Possessive Of Their Owners?

Once again, it is hard to ascertain the level of possessiveness of a cat when you first adopt it.

However, there have been many stories of male cats being unhappy and jealous of their owner’s partners and spouses.

This can make living together challenging but it can be overcome with the proper training and socialization.

Just so you know, female cats can et equally jealous and possessive of their owners too.


The aim of getting a cat is for us to give it a loving forever home. Yes, we all want a cat that is affectionate too regardless if it’s a male or female cat

Rest assured that the majority of cats can and will be affectionate towards their family members.

Cats have their own unique personalities and some cats are more affectionate than others. B

ut don’t love your cat less just because it won’t sit on your lap or lie next to you in bed.

One thing is for sure, your cat is loving you unconditionally.


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